How can you spot abusive behavior and what makes a community abusive? At the 2022 Better Conference (BetterCon), Thomas Westbrook gave this talk calling out abusive behavior in the atheist community, but the points in this talk are fairly universal to all communities. We need to recognize online abuse and learn how can you mitigate or avoid abusive behavior, whether it’s harassments on social media or in-person bullying. There can be abusive bullies in any community, but in order to build a healthy community, it’s important to spot problematic behavior and to avoid being toxic or abusive ourselves. Here are some of the red flags/warning signs of abuse.